Ladies: Do you think I'm being unkind?

Have you asked your mother this? first of all if I was a single mother I would not be taking my children on dates or even introducing them right away to the new boyfriend. I would want and cherish adult time, you can only hold a conversation so long with a five year old. as far as spontaneity got news for you sometimes looking for that window of time alone can be fun. crying children? it's different when they are your own or if you have a close enough relationship with them. No it's not your job to raise someone else's kids but you know what a kid can never have too many people who like and love them enough to care, mentoring is great.Kids can create drama but if the mother has a brain in her head her children will be well behaved and discipline shouldn't be a problem.a mother regardless if she is single or not will always be there for her child period. the relationship she has with her child is different than the one she has with her spouse or a person she is seriously dating.there have been times when i have put my kids to the side and said listen I need to talk with your dad or dad and I need some adult time see me in (fill in the blank) but even when they were babies I still made time for their dad.EX's? they shouldn't be a problem because as long as you are treating their kids good ( regardless if they are being behaved or not). treat their kids like crap and look out.harsh maybe selfish oh yeah! have a talk with your mom and ask her about dating single mothers. ask her how she handled things. she can be a world of knowledge. you might also want to think about how you acted as a child whenever your mom dated.you've been where these kids are now so you know what the scoop is.I wouldn't rule out single mothers all together, you just have to be choosier